Hello there, this is your Online Date Man and I feel this is a good week ahead of us. Now, to all daters out there who continuously go out and have fun, congratulations and keep it up until you find your perfect match. For those who want to try dating but seem afraid to make the first step, read on. I think I know what you need.
I know that there are a lot of people out there who want to give online dating a chance. The problem is, when are you going to start? Which leads to my online dating tip number one.
Stop Procrastinating. Yes most of you say, okay, I want to date this girl. But first, I need to find a job! Yes, you do need a job, but don’t go looking for a job for the wrong reasons. You need a job to earn a living and it is a fact of life. You don’t go seeking for a job because you want to date someone. So, when you say you want to date someone, but only after you get a job; that’s just you procrastinating. You aren’t really going to look for a job. You are only using it to convince yourself that it’s not yet time to date. You are only using the job alibi not to date the girl. So, why do we procrastinate? The answer is dating tip number 2.
Stop Being Afraid. So, what are you afraid of? If you ask a girl to go out with you, the worst she can say is “no”. What’s so scary about that? Dating is a numbers game. The more people you ask, the better chances of ending up with a date. But rejection is not the only thing you fear. You are afraid of change, afraid of getting out of your comfort zone, and simply afraid because you don’t have confidence in yourself. Remember, you can’t die of dating — unless you are trying to date the mistress of a very jealous and violent drug lord! Other than that, you are safe.
Build Confidence. Listen, the main reason why you are afraid is because you don’t have trust in yourself. You are thinking that you might screw up, and most probably you will. But that shouldn’t stop you from dating. Again, dating is a numbers game, the more you expose yourself to it, the better you become. So get ready for failures. When you fail, analyze why you failed, then learn from that experience. Make failure as a stepping stone to your success. Think of yourself as a slab of a marble stone, rough with no form at all. Experience is your sculptor, and learning from your failures is the chisel that experience uses to form you into a better person. As experience hones your dating skills, or any skills at that matter, confidence will grow in you. Now, why don’t you have confidence in the first place?
Stop Being Negative. Being negative is not healthy. This stops progress. Instead of you going forward, it halts you from where you are and that would be the most pathetic stage in your life. Have you ever seen any successful people, or happy couples who are negative? Most negative people are not happy, because they only believe in the bad things in life. They don’t get what they really deserve because they think of things that don’t really exist, but become real because they believe they will happen. So, start looking at the bright side of life. If you are happy with what you do, the more you will do it. So, if you believe dating is going to make you happy, then why wouldn’t you start right away?
To sum up, you are the master of your destiny. If you succeed, you deserve recognitions and pats on the back. If you fail, you definitely deserve a slap. This is your Online Date Man wishing you the best dates of your life. Happy Dating!
