Here’s a letter from our reader Cindy. She asked if we can publish her awful online dating story. read it and I believe there’s a lesson to be learned in here. So, read Cindy’s gruesome dating tale and hope you’d get an online dating tip out of it.
Hello Jen,
My name is Cindy and I’d like to share my hellish dating story. I met this guy online and I thought he was perfect. We both have the same likes and dislikes. He told me that he liked classical music, which I also love by the way. We talked about a lot of things like history. Though he seemed to be heavily leaning towards World War histories more.
One day he asked if we could meet. I was really glad that he finally asked me. I said yes and we set our coffee date on a Saturday. The way I imagined him was very different from who he really was based on the stories he told me. He told me that he has a soft spot for animals and how much he hated cussing. So, I really thought he was a true gentleman; a guy who dresses well and is neat in an obsessive-compulsive kind of way (not metrosexually neat).
Then there he was and he looked exactly like his picture profile. Boyishly blonde and cute, with spiky hair. He was wearing a hip-hop style outfit, however. Low waist baggy jeans with checkered boxers peeking out. He was still pretty cute, nevertheless.
He smiled, slammed his butt on the chair, and un-charmingly greeted, “YO!” All I could say was, “yeah… wassup?” And he went, “kewl!” Next, he took out his earbuds as I heard a Tupac song blaring out cranked to 11. Was it just me, or did I miss the memo that Tupac was included in the classical section?
Anyway, to cut the story short, he lied to me. He didn’t like classical music, his father does. He also wasn’t into into animals. In fact, like a scalded cat, he purposely jumped out of the path of a cute puppy who was approaching us. And what’s more… he cussed a lot. Honestly, if you could use cuss words as a new set of punctuations, that’s what he did!
Lesson learned here – to say nicely, he’s a great story teller. Frankly? He’s a big fat liar! And a free loader to boot. He asked me to pay since he said he left his wallet because he was in such a hurry not to be late for our date. Turned out he was late anyway.
So next time, I swore I would really screen my online dates. I now have a prepared script of question so that I can somehow guage if the person I’m chatting with is lying or not. I hope my story helps in any way with other online daters out there. In the meantime, I’m still sashaying through the dating scene, hoping that, someday, I finally meet the guy who would sweep me off my feet.
Cindy
Thank you very much for sharing with us your story, Cindy. I hope that you do find the guy you are looking for. My online dating advice to you is, don’t look for Mr. Perfect, set your sights slightly lower to include Mr. Real and Good Enough. Mr. Real has more than enough time to turn into Mr. Perfect the more you get to know each other. But if you manage to find the perfect one the first time around, lucky you! So ,until next time, stay away from the creeps, be with worthy peeps! Happy dating!
