I’ve been browsing a lot of dating sites lately and there’s one thing I noticed. The personal ads or profiles of date searchers are either irritating, monotonous, uninteresting, or simply suck. People, what are you thinking?
I’d been in the sales industry for over five years before venturing into the exciting world of blogging. And the first thing my sales trainers taught me was to – listen well – SELL YOURSELF!
Ok, let me throw this question to you. Would you try to connect with a person whose profile looks boring (enough to make a bear go into early hibernation if he reads it), filled with negative thoughts and misspelled words, and the picture next to it is of a dog or a person who looks like a psychotic killer? Your goal is to get as many responses as possible. I remember that I always used to tell to my sisters to collect and select. No, I wasn’t asking them to be skanks and go through as many men as possible. What I meant was for them to find the right guy they needed to meet and date a lot of guys and know them inside and out. At that point, they could assess which one was a keeper and which one wasn’t. A selection process, in short.
Let me give you online dating advice on how to make your profile exciting enough to knock the socks off the person of your dreams and get him or her to chat you up in record time.
- Tell the truth. Be real. Come on ladies and gentlemen, be honest. Don’t say you’re a rocket scientist or a ramp model if you’re obviously not (besides who wants to date a boring rocket scientist?). I know you want to impress someone out there, but telling a lie is misleading the person, not impressing. Now, if it is because you don’t have a job, then sorry to say, you really don’t have any business looking for a date. You are on the wrong site, go to Job Seekers first. Go and set a date with a potential employer not with a lifetime partner. Unfortunately, how you make a living is one of the vital factors of your attractiveness scale – especially if you are a guy. If you are uncomfortable with your weight, then it’s time for you to gain self-respect or confidence no matter how you look. Better yet, go on a diet program instead of uploading a picture of your pet. Nobody wants to go out dating an actual animal, right?
- Be exciting. When you fill out the narrative part of your profile don’t bore the searchers to death. Paint a picture in your prospect’s mind what you are talking about. Let them see it in their mind. If they can see it they can feel it, and more prospects are going to be interested. Don’t just say that you are a romantic kind of guy/girl. Tell them that you are searching for someone whom you can cook for and have a romantic breakfast in bed with or a dinner with lots of dancing and cuddling. Unleash the poet in you. Might sound gay to a lot of guys out there… but, hey, these are what most women are looking for! If you are not the type to gush the mush, then tell them you’re looking for someone you want to go bungee jumping with, or skydiving, or deep sea diving, or whatever adventure you’re into. And if you are not that adventurous and you’re more of the intellectual type then just say all you need is the aroma of hot coffee in your favorite cafe as you discuss the newest bestseller with a special someone. If your profile isn’t stirring someone romantically, emotionally, or at least intellectually, then time to change the profile you are using now, PRONTO!
- Photos. Please post a photo that’s pleasant, cheerful, and very recent. Don’t use a photo taken 10 years ago where you were buff and strapping, when you are aging, balding, and bulging right now. Remember tip number 1. Save yourself from the “first meeting” embarrassment. So you say it’s recent, but please don’t look like you’re going to be DEXTER’s next victim. Smile, be pleasant, and look like a person who is fun to be with. Don’t look like you just lost your job and wanna kill the first person you will meet.
- Make a “Whoa” Impression. Don’t be one of those average Joes or Janes. Be unique without being weird, be humble without being self-deprecating, be proud without being conceited. The “Whoa” impression is just being you making the searchers say, “Bingo!” or “Gotcha!” I hope you already know what I mean.
- You’ve Got Mail! You should write to profiles you think are a great match for you. And you should respond to searchers who gave their time and effort to reply to you. Be nice, gracious, and accommodating.
So, there you go. Some tips to pack some “wow” into your profile to invite the woos. Oh, and one more thing. Make sure you do a spelling and grammar check, and don’t add your personal contacts such as primary email, home and cellphone number, and address. This is just to protect you from potential stalkers. Have fun! Hope you found this online dating tip useful.
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