These past few years, I’ve been frequenting social networking and dating sites just to window shop, but I always end up buying and not liking what I get. Hi, this is Marcus and I am going to talk to you about how to choose the right person to date from someone you just met online.
I can’t say that I’m an expert on the subject, but I have tried a lot of techniques that have either failed miserably or have worked like magic. Searching for a date online can be tricky. Even if you go to the so called best dating sites, there is no guarantee that you will have the best date out there unless you know how to choose wisely.
When I was new to this online dating fiasco, I always looked at the pictures to see what the person looked like. If she looked hot enough without the benefit of a few vodka shots, BAM!, she’s the one. And I’ve learned so many times that that was a dumb move. So, here I am waiting for that supposed Megan Fox lookalike just to learn the minute she arrives that she literally looks like – a fox! I believe they have come up with a word for this awkward situation. Swoondoggle (due to the misrepresentation of your chosen date or miscalculation on yours, your first date is a disappointment). This is something I picked up from youtube. So what’s the lesson here? A lot of people on dating sites bend the truth a little, if not outright lie.
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Now, what if your chosen date is a real knockout? Here’s what happened to me a couple of years back. I browsed a popular dating site and saw this awesome looking chick. This time I made sure the chick in the picture was the same person who was going to materialize as my date. I read her bio carefully, and everything she described about herself – like what she does for a living, what her favorite foods are, what hobbies she enjoys – made me confident that her picture was authentic. During that time, I was 80 % sure and 20 % praying! And thanks to my 20% prayer, 80% showed up. She was gorgeous, she made my knees weak, made me stutter, and… made a fool out of me. While I was drooling for her, she was flirting with our waiter. The night ended up with me paying for the pricey meal and giving a really generous tip to the waiter – my date. That night, I swore to stop being shallow and to never bring a date to an expensive restaurant with waiters that look like Hugh Jackman.
Would you like me to be your dinner, ma'am?
That didn’t discourage me from giving it another shot, though. This time, I told myself that I want to have fun on my next date and not have a frustrating evening. Stubborn, masochistic mule that I am, I, again, searched for my next date from the same website and picked someone who looked cute, a bit nerdy, but with a really nice smile. I chose her because she looked real and the fact that there were certain things that we both liked doing. I met up with her — this time in a simple, not-too-chi-chi, but cozy, place — and had the best date ever. She was funny, interesting, and the more I looked at her, the prettier she got. I loved being with her so much that after a couple of months of constant dating, she finally became my girlfriend
So what’s the whole point in all of this? All I’m trying to say is, don’t set your expectations too high when it comes to online dating. It’s all about having fun and enjoying each other’s company – that’s all. There’s nothing wrong with wanting gold, but remember, some stones can actually be diamonds. It’s the pleasure in finding these diamonds that makes the whole online dating experience worth a try.
Regards,
Marcus Smith
